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I got 1-1 coaching with the world's greatest therapy coach, Alex Vaz. Here's what I learned (Pt 1).
What I'm learning about the experiencing scale from the worlds best therapy coach, Alex Vaz.
Aug 28, 20235 min read
What the Enneagram Teaches Counselors About Human-focused Design (and Preventing Dropout)
Human-focused design principles can make therapy more engaging to clients and reduce dropouts.
Jun 26, 202310 min read
The #1 thing we miss about new therapists.
We estimate the abilities of new therapists. Here's why that matters and what we can do about it.
Mar 27, 20238 min read


If you want to be a supershrink it's going to hurt. A lot.
A shy, gap-toothed young woman arrives at the simple home of a doctor in Phoenix, Ariz. She says she is embarrassed about her teeth and...
Mar 20, 20238 min read


3 Metrics for Assessing Your Effectiveness as A Counselor
My brother in law is the Sherlock Holmes of small engine repair [1]. Over the summer I was riding my lawnmower, hit a particularly thick clump of grass, and my lawnmower started to smoke. I jumped off and called my brother in law for advice. "Oh it's the belt." He said without a doubt. "The belt?" I asked. "Yeah for the blades. I mean you can turn it on while I listen over the phone if you want." He said. So I did. After about two seconds he piped up. "Yeah it's the belt. Wh
Jan 30, 20237 min read


The sources that have most influenced my philosophical framework
This blog is all about helping you become a better therapist. You've probably heard me say outrageous things and wondered "where does...
Jan 19, 20237 min read


Why we're secretly terrified of amazing therapists
Skills of an effective counselor pt. 13 1/3 Clever or Manipulative? [podcast] "I don't want tooo." My 4 year old bawled. "Just. Take....
Dec 19, 20225 min read


The Number 1 Thing Keeping Counselors from Growing
Skills of an effective counselor pt. 12 I remember the first time I saw Alexandra. I was standing in a small concrete storage facility....
Oct 17, 20226 min read


The three steps to effective alliance repair
Skills of an effective counselor part 11 There are two types of people who become therapist. The first group are people who've been...
Sep 26, 20225 min read


The secret to working with unmotivated clients
Skills of an effective counselor?: Part 10b Last week we talked about why motivation in therapy was a game of diminishing returns . Yes,...
Sep 12, 20226 min read


Client motivation is the most powerful force in therapy.
So you wanna be a better therapists?: Part 10a I used to work at a psych center. Twice a day I'd usher in the patients, usually a small...
Sep 5, 20225 min read


Gurus aren't magic. They just tell a persuasive story.
So you wanna be a better therapists?: Part 9 Hello friends :) If you want to join me and other readers in exploring the world of...
Jul 11, 20227 min read


What actually makes therapy work?:
So you wanna be a better counselor? Pt. 8 A few weeks back I hosted a guest post from Barry McInnes entitled "Are You Any Good…as a...
Jul 4, 20226 min read


The potential and problems of certification.
So you wanna be a better therapists?: Part 7 To become a SuperShrink you’d have to do the Big Three of Tracking Outcomes, Watching Tape,...
Apr 18, 20222 min read


You can’t always make things better. But you can make them worse.
So you wanna be a better counselor:? Part 6 “He doesn’t like you. He says you don’t listen. That’s a his problem though. You know how he...
Apr 4, 20224 min read


Maybe We’re Trying Too Hard.
Investors have taught me more about how to think about therapy than I’d like to admit. Dean Williams, an investor, has an excellent...
Mar 21, 20228 min read


The Big 3
So you wanna be a better counselor?: Part 5 Let’s get down to brass tacks. You’ve got the preconditions of a well defined field, clear...
Mar 14, 20227 min read


“I have to be able to do this job when I’m grieving.”
The other day I was talking with a friend about all the work it takes to be a master therapist, from reviewing tape to monitoring...
Feb 14, 20222 min read


The problems with gurus: We mistake status for skill.
So you wanna be a better counselor?: Part 4 We’ve spent a lot of time talking about how a well defined field, feedback, and time, are the...
Jan 17, 20224 min read


Time: Preconditions and principles for obtaining mastery
So you wanna be a better counselor?: Part 3 Precondition #2: Time Mastery isn’t for everyone. It takes time. A lot of time. How much...
Dec 13, 20212 min read
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